Over the past month I have found that we have gone out to eat quite a bit. Using gift cards, being treated and going for birthdays. I am a very observant person. I am a people watcher and I like to listen to what is going on at tables around me.
I am amazed sometimes at what I hear, how husbands talk to their wives. I don't know who on earth they think they are. They are not any better than those woman. They talk very condescending and disrespectful. I honestly don't know why a woman would put up with it.
I remember back when Dan and I were getting ready to get married. It was bachelor party time. One thing that is popular when it comes to those parties are strip clubs. That is one thing I can not stand. Men are visual, and they remember things they see and like for a very long time. I have issues enough as it is with my body. I didn't need Dan going and gawking at naked ladies and getting all hot and bothered just to make me feel even more insecure about myself.
I told him I didn't care if all the other guys tied him up and dragged him to a club that I would NOT marry him. Some one asked me if I was serious and I said, "I have no issue calling it all off it he goes" and I was serious.
You see a big part of marriage is respect. If he would have went, that it not showing that he respected me or my feelings. The last thing I was going to do was marry a man who did NOT respect me. To this day and my knowledge he did not go to a strip club.
I just can't stand how some men talk to woman sometimes. Telling them to, "shut up", "make a note to yourself", "why would you want to make yourself look like s#%$". (Sorry, I don't cuss, but I put that so you got the full picture of the disrespect.) So much disrespect for a woman who probably waits on you hand and foot, gave birth to and raised your children and God knows what else she did for you along the way.
I find I leave places feeling so bad for those ladies. What is it about that man that you would want to stay with him and allow him to talk to you like that? If truth be told she is probably God's gift to him. He needs to see her as that and treat her that way.
Even though they may not be getting beaten physically they are getting a verbal beating when they do that. My heart just brakes for those ladies. I urge you men who read this to think about how you talk to your wives. The words you say, the tone you use and know that others do hear you.
I am so glad that I found a man who respects me. I do NOT tolerate disrespect very well from my kids, husband or family!!
Dan is a good man, who teats me good. I wouldn't trade him for anything!!! I thank God I got him!!!
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